Afraid ill never find a girlfriend
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- Read This If You’re Worried That You’ll Never Find ‘The One’
- Since breaking up with my girlfriend, I worry I will never find another partner
- 14 Reasons Why You’ve Never Had A Girlfriend (And How To Get One)
- 21 Reasons You Can’t Get A Girlfriend
- Am I in a Healthy Relationship?
- “What If They’re The Best I’ll Ever Do?”
Read This If You’re Worried That You’ll Never Find ‘The One’
What if you peered into a fortune ball right now — this very second, today — and saw with indisputable clarity that you were never going to meet the love of your life? I know, I know. But you were expecting to meet someone you liked a fair amount. Someone to curl up next to at the end of a long day, who would take care of you when you got sick and listen to your stories every evening after work.
We all hope that. And we all loathe admitting it. So if you knew, with indisputable certainty, that love was never going to be yours, how would you live your life differently? What about your daily routine would you alter? What about your long-term plans?
We all do. But ponder it a few moments more. The idea that someday somebody will love all our flaws is a subtle excuse not to work on them. The principle of two halves making a whole restrains us from becoming our own better half. We want someone to swoop in during our darkest hour and save us, but what if we knew they never would? If you knew that love would never be an option for you, what would be? How would you structure the rest of your life?
Would it have a heavier focus on career, a stronger inclination toward success? Or would you use the time to invest in yourself — go on a few more vacations, travel further outside your comfort zone? If you knew that you would never again feel the rush of budding romance, where would you turn to for your thrills? How would you get your blood pumping? And what about your other relationships — would they suddenly take on more weight?
Would you spend more time appreciating your family, if you knew that they are the people who will have loved you the most strongly at the end of your life? What about your friendships? Would you nurture and care more for the people who love you platonically if you knew that nobody would ever love you romantically?
Would you show up a little more often, share a little more of your life? My inclination is to believe that never finding love would be a game-changer for most of us. Without the fear of ending up alone, the opportunities open to you would become endless. You could live on every continent.
You could scale the corporate ladder. Love holds us back in an infinite amount of subtle ways that perhaps we do not even realize. And the guarantee of its absence may just be the ultimate sense of liberation. That we can spend our lives developing ourselves, challenging ourselves, pampering ourselves and building ourselves up to be bigger, more capable people than we ever once hoped to become.
We could construct our soul mates in ourselves. Live your life as if you are the love of it. You are going to be the person who shows up to accept your rewards. We have to start appreciating all that we bring to our own lives. And let everybody else come searching for you. Sign up for the Thought Catalog Weekly and get the best stories from the week to your inbox every Friday.
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Since breaking up with my girlfriend, I worry I will never find another partner
Attract love in just 7 weeks with the help of this bestselling book. Click here to learn more. These thoughts are natural given the society we live in.
I am fortunate enough to live in New Zealand, where same sex marriage has been legal since Gone are the days where meet-cutes were the start of something wonderful, where you met the love of your life by chance in line at a coffee shop. Nope, these days, everyone is all about Tinder. In the recent film How To Be Single.
14 Reasons Why You’ve Never Had A Girlfriend (And How To Get One)
What if you peered into a fortune ball right now — this very second, today — and saw with indisputable clarity that you were never going to meet the love of your life? I know, I know. But you were expecting to meet someone you liked a fair amount. Someone to curl up next to at the end of a long day, who would take care of you when you got sick and listen to your stories every evening after work. We all hope that. And we all loathe admitting it. So if you knew, with indisputable certainty, that love was never going to be yours, how would you live your life differently? What about your daily routine would you alter? What about your long-term plans? We all do.
21 Reasons You Can’t Get A Girlfriend
I was one of them. What if she said no? Even worse: what if she liked me too? Then what would we talk about? What if the date was super awkward?
Stuck in an unhappy relationship? Afraid you'll never find anyone better? Read this to overcome your fear of singledom, and take happiness into your own hands. By Sarah Treleaven Updated November 23,
Am I in a Healthy Relationship?
Subscribe To Our Newsletter! We are going to uncover oodles of different common and not-so-common reasons why you might be having trouble in the girl department, so you can take action to make positive changes. After you understand why you are having issues, then you can make a plan to break through your obstacles and find a solution. Use as many approaches as you can until you land the girl.
This is going to be a hard pill to swallow, but have you ever thought that maybe you are the problem? Go ahead and stay single then, we are just trying to help you here. Have you ever considered that you are putting too much pressure on people to be awesome all the time? According to marriage and family therapist intern Michael Bouciquot:. Some people never realize the unwarranted damage they cause because of these inflated ideas. We desire it, but do we really deserve it?
“What If They’re The Best I’ll Ever Do?”
This happens so often to you that you start expecting women to stop texting you back or disappear into oblivion, because no matter what you do differently it always ends the same way. Guilty of pushing girls away at the last hurdle? Click Here to Jump to Reason 9. You will never know the truth of how a girl feels about you without talking to her. Without communication. But what if that guy was actually her creepy boss?
Each of these stages constitutes a crisis every human will experience during his or her lifetime. That question alone triggers memories of my own identity crisis as a young teenager dealing with the onset of puberty. I would get angry at the drop of a hat, and I struggled to understand my place in the world. Successfully exiting the identity crisis stage is an essential precursor to adulthood, as teenagers leave their youth behind and start to grow up. For me, conquering this stage took an incredibly long time.
It was my first and, to date, only relationship and lasted less than two years. I was devastated for a long time. Since then, I have recovered from the psychological problems I was having. I have worked in a lot of jobs, got an MA and moved to a small town to complete a PhD on a topic that I am passionate and excited about.