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I just found out my wife cheated on me 2 years ago
I just found out my wife cheated on me 2 years ago. Thread Tools. Received 1 Like on 1 Post. I can't believe I am even posting this, but I'm not even sure who to talk to right now. I hope some people here can give some advice or comfort. We've been married 5 years. She apparently had an affar 2 years ago. We had been going through some very tough times, mostly due to my absolute hate of my job.
I'm not going to pretend things were great with us, but apparently she had an affair with this asshole from her work. It was more than once too. I found out today while using our web browser, I saw that she had visited some sites about adultury. Trying to ease her guilt I guess. Things these past 2 years have been great though. I'm now going to law school and loving it.
We have an 11 month old baby boy who is absolutely perfect. She is staying at home with the baby. I don't know what to do. I love her. I love my baby so much it hurts. I don't want the marriage to end. How do I ever trust her again? How do I not think about what she did everytime I touch her?
I'm hurt, angry, sad, and I feel like a complete idiot because I didn't figure it out earlier. Thanks for reading. Please don't be too harsh.
This is my first personal post. View Public Profile. Find More Posts by sherm DVD Polizei. Likes: Received 54 Likes on 39 Posts. Well, this definitely needs to be talked about between the both of you. She's been hiding a secret for a few years, and now you will be hiding a secret for who knows how long. Eventually, these secrets end up coming out in bad ways, which can ruin a relationship even more.
Anyway, I'd try to think about a way in the near future of talking with her about it. Also, it could be she is really sorry for what she did, which is why she is currently going to particular websites to talk about it. It could be that she doesn't know how to approach you about what happened, and that she needs the communication tools in order to do it.
So, not all is lost at this point. Originally Posted by sherm Find More Posts by DoogieHowser. You brought up a few key issues that you need to work out. Trust 2. Fidelity 3. Why she did it I'm guessing it is a combination of lacking and needing I would sit down with her and talk. I would STRONGLY suggest seeing a marriage counselor because you will need someone to help sort through everything, because people tend to focus on the wrong things, and it creates more problems.
People will focus on the Act, and not WHY the act happened, etc -pedagogue. I assume by you 'finding out' You 'might' be jumping to conclusions if she just went ot some general adultery websites. I know why she did it and that she is very sorry. None of that changes how I feel though. The sites she had been to were all guilt oriented. One was a site to confess online anonymously. Another was about trying to deal with it. Even accepting how sorry she is and why she did it, I'm still crushed. Maybe its too soon.
It has only been a few hours. Oh, no jumping to conclusions. I should have been clearer. After seeing the sites, I immediately asked her about why she was surfing adultry oriented websites. Was she thinking about doing it or had she already done it? She told me it had happened. I know who it was she did it with. Since you just basically found out, let yourself cool down as I'm sure you have tunnel vision.
I sure as hell would. You have any guy best-friends you can hang out with or something? Maybe have a drink with them to calm your nerves and just chill for a while? Unfortunately, no guy friends in LA. Even so, I am hesitant to go to outside people like my parents. I'm not looking to smear her or anything.
I know, I posted here, but I don't actually know anyone here. The timing sucks. I have a Con Law II final tomorrow, hard to concentrate now, but that one test is my whole grade. In addition, we are supposed to go to her parents house for a week on Friday. An 8 hour drive. We might not go. I told her I didn't know how I was supposed to survive an 8 hour drive and a week with her parents acting like everything was happy and great.
This is a tough call. Take some time and think about it. Visit BizRodian's homepage! Find More Posts by BizRodian. Received 2 Likes on 2 Posts. Tough deal. If I were you, I would wish she would have lied to me.
But now that you know, you need to get some counseling with her. It would be tough to be in your shoes. I would have a tough time not holding it over her for a long time, and that ain't healthy. Does she still work there, and him? I don't know. Scarlet "A". It's tough, but that is why you need a counselor, especially if you really do want to save the marriage.
And if you have a kid, you need to. Having a 5 and 3 year old, you can't imagine how important a father is. When you are a few years older and so is your child, they will have friends who only have a one parent family, and it will be obvious that two is definately better for the child.
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This is a space to ask questions, share experiences and support each other. Find a relevant thread or start your own! Forum membership is open to anyone residing in Australia. The first thing I want to say is a response to your questions - you have done nothing wrong, there is nothing wrong with you. I can understand your reaction to what happened and the feeling of being betrayed and anger. I do not know if he regretted his decision afterwards - even though he was completely open and honest? The drinking, and the porn are perhaps a way of coping? This is not a justification for his actions.
I have been with my wife since my junior year of high school in She was the first person I had ever been with I was her second. Shortly after our first time, she had cheated on me with her ex her first , and I forgave her because I thought it was my fault. Fast forward to , us being together 13 years, married, and with two amazing kids, she decides to have an affair with someone she met online and only knew for two weeks.