Nervous for boyfriend to meet parents
Our male writer fesses up to the biggest reasons most men would rather read the entire Twilight series than socialise with your folks. Driving up to my girlfriend's parents' house, I was nervous enough. Meeting the folks for the first time is scary to every guy. So when I saw her bearded father standing on the front porch clutching a hammer, I almost had a full-blown heart attack. Thankfully, it was all a joke more later on why those pranks aren't funny , and her parents were quite nice. But even under the best of circumstances, women need to know that introduction is hell for men.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: If Meeting The Parents Were Honest
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The 16 terrifying stages of introducing your partner to your parents
Remember when Ben Stiller met his girlfriend's family for the first time in Meet the Parents? Although the chances of something that disastrous happening in real life are slim, first encounters with your guy's family can still be horribly scary. Before you shake hands, commit these DON'Ts to memory—they're straight from family members who've been there. She was trying to hide it under the table and pretend she was listening to our conversation, but it was obvious she had more important' people to converse with.
My son had a girlfriend who was really affectionate in front of my husband, my other children and myself. The first time we met his girlfriend, she kept coming up behind him and grabbing him or kissing his cheeks, which made me really uncomfortable. I understand how it is to be young and in love, but seriously, there is an appropriate time and place and…in front of your boyfriend's parents is not one of them. Last Thanksgiving, I sat next to him at dinner to catch up, but his new girlfriend started answering questions for him and controlling the conversation.
When I tried to tell her a funny story about him as a little boy, she interrupted. It annoyed me that she wasn't interested in anything the family had to say and tried to act like she knew our grandson much better than we did.
After a family meal, we all got up and started clearing the table and washing the dishes…well, everyone got up to help except her. She stayed seated at the table, playing a game on her cell phone.
Later on, after we had exchanged gifts, she threw her used wrapping paper to the floor and walked out of the room, leaving the mess for someone else to clean up. She was rude and very disrespectful. During the game, she made it obvious she didn't like football. She pouted on the couch and kept angrily whispering. At half time, she got up and walked to the door, demanding my son leave to take her home.
Football isn't everyone's idea of a good time, but it's important to be respectful and open-minded when you meet new people and experience their traditions.
As the visit progressed, it was obvious that she was angry and irritated with my son. She kept sulking in the corner and texting on her phone, refusing to participate in conversation. She even went as far as outwardly ignoring my son in front of everyone during dinner! My son tried to ask her a simple question, and she rolled her eyes and looked at her plate. It was so awkward and uncomfortable that no one really knew what to say or do next.
My grandson brought his new girlfriend over for New Year's Eve one year, and she showed up very intoxicated. The poor girl kept obnoxiously dancing, speaking way too loudly and slurring her words. After she finally stumbled out the door to be taken home, the whole family talked about how embarrassing and rude she was to make a first impression drunk.
I was shocked by her shameless approach to conversation after just meeting us and couldn't get over her blatant disrespect. Whenever people talk about controversial topics, it always starts things off on the wrong foot. Offer to help with dinner once, not five times. I understand it's intimidating meeting a family, but it's important that the girl calms down and acts like herself.
It impresses me most when a girl can sit down with the family and hold a conversation with everyone, instead of sticking to herself or worrying about being polite. His girlfriend told me she loved skiing and had taken lessons for years. A few days later, I found out this was not true; his girlfriend had never even skied in her life! I couldn't have cared less if she knew how to ski or even liked the sport, but dishonesty is always a red flag. My parents are pretty old-fashioned, so they decided my brother and I would share a bedroom while his girlfriend slept in his room.
Each night, his girlfriend would sneak into bed with my brother or try to get him into her room. My parents were too polite to say anything, but I heard them talking about how rude it was that she didn't respect their rules. Not only did it disappoint my parents, but it instantly made me question his girlfriend's character.
The family all started eating, visiting and exchanging gifts. Anna wasn't eating, so I offered to fix her a plate. She refused, claiming she had already eaten. Later on, I overheard Anna on the phone talking about how weird our food was and how gross it looked. She was complaining that she was starving and there was nothing for her to eat. If you truly don't like the food, at least have the decency to keep your thoughts to yourself so you don't offend anyone.
Finally, over New Year's she agreed to come over for the family's annual celebration. However, they ended up leaving after an hour. There was no reason that my grandson and his girlfriend couldn't have stuck around longer; they had already spent Thanksgiving and Christmas with her family, which was obviously her decision.
After that incident, I refused to give her the time of day. Every morning, she would lock herself in the bathroom and emerge two hours later. She also refused to go outside and sled ride with the family, saying it would ruin her hair. When we came back, she was painting her toenails! After she left, my only impression of her from the entire weekend was her combing her hair or looking at her nails.
We had grandparents, great aunts and uncles and little kids around, so it wasn't the right environment for that outfit. After she left, the whole family kept asking why my son's girlfriend was dressed like a hooker'—a question a mother never wants to be asked!
Dress appropriately; it never hurts to be extra conservative when you're meeting new people. If you are supposed to arrive at a certain time, make sure you are there 10 minutes early. My grandson's girlfriend always shows up late to family meals, and everyone is cranky and annoyed with her by the time she finally arrives.
His girlfriend would converse with only my brother and seemed uncomfortable when he was out of the room. She was so overly attentive to hanging around him that none of the family had a chance to get to really know her.
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